Why do you find it so hard to say no? Why do you constantly feel like a pushover? Why do you say yes when you really want to say no? 

LACK OF BOUNDARIES  

 You struggle with setting boundaries with others but most importantly you struggle with setting boundaries with yourself.  

In order to have a balanced, fulfilling life where you prioritise your wellbeing and wellness you need to have clear boundaries and you need to start with you first. You need to have a clear conversation with yourself to understand what boundaries you need and want to implement in your life. To understand and know what changes you need to be made you will need a high level of self-awareness  

So how does one become self-aware? 

Quite simply put intentionally self-reflecting is one of the most effective ways to be become more in tune with one self. There are many ways that one can self-reflect whether it be meditating, journaling, praying or getting out in nature. The main premise is to have deep thoughts about one's character, personality and to better understand oneself. A conversation where you are able to meet the real you - discover ones likes and dislikes, the pretty and the ugly. Once some of this work has been done it is important to fall in love with  YOU - wholeheartedly and authentically.  

This is when you can start to set boundaries with yourself because you know and love you for you - you have an awareness of what you are willing to tolerate in your life and when you need to keep yourself accountable. Your self-love journey should have shown you where and how you need to make choices and decisions that you have your best interest at the heart.  

Once you are clear on your personal boundaries with oneself it should be easier to set clear boundaries with secondary parties in your life such as your personal, social and work life. It will no longer be hard for you to say no to those individuals in your life as you are sure and certain of what you want and how you want to spend your time.

Remember when it comes to your wellbeing and improving one's self it will always be a journey of self-discovery filled with challenges but setting boundaries is one of the best things you can do for you. Be determined and intentional so that you can grow and evolve into the person you are meant to be. You are in control of your life, how you allow others to treat you and your story. Embrace your journey and take action to live an inspired life driven by you. 

keep being a beautiful human 🦋

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